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Verses 1-12  Divorce

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1Jesus then left that place and went into the region of Judea and across the Jordan. Again crowds of people came to him, and as was his custom, he taught them.

2Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”

3“What did Moses command you?” he replied.

4They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.”

5“It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied.

6“But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’

7‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,

8and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

9Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

10When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this.

11He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.

12And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”

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Concerning divorce,

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1)       Where did Jesus go next?

o   Jesus went into the region of Judea and across the Jordan.  

o   Judea can be found on the map shown on the following page: http://www.gods-word-first.org/bible-maps/jordan-river.html

 

2)       What did Jesus do when crowds of people came to him?

o   As was his custom, Jesus taught them.

 

3)       What did some Pharisees say to Jesus?

o   Some Pharisees came and asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”

 

4)       What motivated the Pharisees to ask Jesus the question?

o   They were testing Jesus.

 

5)       What did Jesus say in reply?

o   “What did Moses command you?”  Jesus replied.

 

6)       Where did Moses’ commands come from?

o   Moses’ commands came from the law God gave the Israelites through him.

 

7)       Why did Jesus respond to the Pharisees’ question with a question about what Moses commanded concerning the matter?

o   The Pharisees meticulously observed the law of Moses, so Jesus asked them about their understanding and practice of the matter based on stipulations in the law.

 

8)       What did the Pharisees say in reply to Jesus in verse 4?

o   They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.”

 

9)       Where in the law of Moses did the Pharisees’ reply come from?

o   It came from Deuteronomy 24:1-4.

 

·  Ask a volunteer to read out loud Deuteronomy 24:1-4 that says,

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1If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house,

2and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man,

3and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies,

4then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance.

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10)   What kind of proceedings were the Pharisees talking about when they mentioned a man writing a certificate of divorce and sending her away?

o   They were talking about the proceedings for divorce.

 

11)   Where are the proceedings for divorce found in Deuteronomy 24:1-4?

o   They are found in the conditional clause in Deuteronomy 24:1.

 

12)   What is the verbiage for the proceedings for divorce found in Deuteronomy 24:1-4?

o   A man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house.

 

13)   Based on the verbiage for the proceedings for divorce, who has the right in the marital relation to initiate divorce?

o   The husband does.

 

14)   How stringent or lax is the requirement for ground for divorce?

o   It is as stringent or lax as the husband wants it to be because it is entirely up to him to decide what is indecent about his wife that motivates him to divorce her.

 

15)   Did the Pharisees cite exactly what is in the proceedings for divorce in their reply to Jesus?

o   No.

 

16)   What was missing from the Pharisees’ reply that was in the proceedings for divorce?

o   Their reply omitted the husband’s ground for divorce.

 

17)   Would the Pharisees be able to cite exactly what is in the proceedings for divorce in their reply to Jesus and why?

o   Yes, because they memorized the law of Moses.

 

18)   What were the Pharisees proud of concerning their observance of the law of Moses?

o   They were proud of their strict and meticulous observance of the law of Moses.

 

19)   Did the Pharisees have strict and meticulous observance in accordance with the proceedings for divorce?

o   No.

 

20)   What does the omission of the husband’s ground for divorce in the Pharisees’ reply to Jesus suggest concerning the frivolity of divorce among them?

o   They divorced their wives at will without bothering to provide a pretense for ground for divorce.

 

21)   What was the likely reason for the Pharisees to write a certificate of divorce and send their wives away without ground for divorce?

o   The likely reason was that they wanted to marry another woman.

 

22)   What is a certificate of divorce?

o   There is no information in the law of Moses concerning what a certificate of divorce is.

 

23)   What does the absence of information about the certificate of divorce in the law of Moses suggest?

o   It suggests that the proceedings for divorce were

§  Citation from a source outside of the law of Moses.

§  Likely well-known cultural practice during the time of Moses.

 

24)   How did the Pharisees’ practice of divorce compare to the ongoing cultural practice?

o   It reached the low moral end of the ongoing cultural practice when they divorced their wives at will without bothering to provide a pretense for ground for divorce.

 

25)   What purpose do the proceedings for divorce found in the conditional clause in Deuteronomy 24:1 serve?

o   The proceedings for divorce in the conditional clause are set up for the stipulation of forbidding remarriage between the divorced husband and wife in the main clause if the divorced wife remarried and then was divorced again.

 

26)   What effect did this particular stipulation of forbidding remarriage between the divorced husband and wife have on divorce?

o   It caused the husband to think twice before divorcing his wife and therefore restricted unbridled divorce.

 

27)   According to the law of Moses what was the status of the woman after she was divorced and then remarried to another man?

o   She was defiled.

 

28)   What was detestable in the eyes of the Lord?

o   It was detestable in the eyes of the Lord for the former husband to remarry his former wife after she had been defiled.

 

29)   Was it detestable in the eyes of the Lord for the former husband to remarry his former wife if she had stayed unmarried after the divorce and why?

o   No, because the former wife had not been defiled in that case.

 

30)   Did the law of Moses forbid remarriage between the divorced husband and wife if she had stayed unmarried after the divorce?

o   No.

 

31)   Is it good for the divorced husband and wife to remarry if both had stayed unmarried after the divorce and why?

o   Yes, because remarriage is reconciliation in this case.

 

32)   What loophole of immorality does the stipulation of forbidding remarriage between the divorced husband and wife plug in case the divorced wife remarries and then is divorced again?

o   It plugs the loophole of legally passing around and sharing wives through serial divorce and remarriage.

 

33)   Is it detestable in the eyes of the Lord to pass around and share wives through the loophole and why?

o   Yes, because the former wives have been defiled prior to remarriage to their former husbands.

o   Besides the idea of passing around and sharing wives is repugnant in itself.

 

34)   Are the proceedings for divorce found in the conditional clause in Deuteronomy 24:1 for the purpose of permitting divorce and why?

o   No, because they were set up for a particular stipulation of forbidding remarriage between the divorced husband and wife in order to

§  Restrict unbridled divorce.

§  Plug the loophole of legally passing around and sharing wives through serial divorce and remarriage.

 

35)   Did the Pharisees read Moses’ intent correctly in the law in claiming that Moses permitted divorce?

o   No.

 

36)   Were the Pharisees completely certain that Moses permitted divorce and why?

o   No, because they asked Jesus if it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife.

o   Such a question would not have been raised if the law had left no room for debate.

 

37)   Did Moses forbid divorce in the law?

o   No.

 

38)   What is the difference between permitting divorce and not forbidding divorce?

o   Permitting divorce tends to encourage divorce.

o   Not forbidding divorce does not tend to encourage divorce.

 

39)   How might the Pharisees’ misreading Moses’ intent concerning divorce have contributed to their divorcing their wives at will?

o   The permissiveness that resulted from their misreading Moses’ intent concerning divorce might have contributed to the practice.

 

40)   What then is the stance of the law of Moses on divorce?

o   The law of Moses

§  Does not forbid divorce.

§  Restricts unbridled divorce.

§  Plugs the loophole of legally passing around and sharing wives through serial divorce and remarriage.

 

41)   Given that the proceedings for divorce were the cultural practice during the time of Moses, how do we restate the stance of the law of Moses on divorce?

o   The law of Moses

§  Does not forbid the cultural practice of divorce.

§  Restricts the cultural practice of unbridled divorce.

§  Plugs the loophole of legally passing around and sharing wives through the cultural practice of serial divorce and remarriage.

 

42)   What is the ultimate purpose of the law of Moses in restricting and plugging the loophole of the cultural practice of divorce?

o   The ultimate purpose of the law of Moses is for protecting the Israelites from the corrupting influence of culture because the Israelites were a people set apart to be holy unto God.

 

43)   What was Jesus’ reply to the Pharisees’ assertion that Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away?

o   “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

 

44)   What was Jesus referring to by ‘this law’?

o   Jesus was referring to the stipulation in Deuteronomy 24:1-4 of forbidding remarriage between the divorced husband and wife if the divorced wife remarried and then was divorced again.

 

45)   Did Jesus agree with the Pharisees’ assertion that Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away and why?

o   No, because Jesus in his reply

§  Was not referring to any stipulation in the law that permits divorce.

§  Was rather referring to the law that is intended to restrict the practice of unbridled divorce and plug the loophole of legally passing around and sharing wives through serial divorce and remarriage.

 

46)   What did Jesus mean when he told the Pharisees that it was because their hearts were hard that Moses wrote them the law?

o        Their hearts were hard in that they practiced unbridled divorce and passed around and shared wives through serial divorce and remarriage.

o        So Moses wrote them the law documented in Deuteronomy 24:1-4 to keep them from going off the moral cliff.

 

47)   What was the difference in perspective between Jesus and the Pharisees of the nature of the problem under discussion?

o        The Pharisees posed to Jesus a question of the legality of divorce.

o        Jesus pointed out that the Pharisees had a moral issue with their heart.

 

48)   What are the two genders of humanity that God created at the beginning of creation?

o        Male and female.

 

49)   What did God have in mind for humanity to be created as male and female?

o        God had in mind for a man to be united to a woman with the two becoming one flesh.

 

50)   What is God’s design for the marriage of man and woman?

o          Marriage is between a man and a woman.

 

51)   What does the man leave behind when he is united to his wife?

o        He leaves behind his father and mother.

 

52)   What is the consequence in the context of family of a man leaving his parents and being united to his wife?

o        The man leaves the family he was born into and forms a new family with his wife.

 

53)   Who joins the husband and wife together as one flesh?

o        God does.

 

54)   How did Jesus emphasize the man and woman being one flesh?

o        Jesus referred to the man and woman being one flesh twice.

 

55)   In the context of the husband and wife being joined together in marriage, what can we call the bond holding them together as one flesh?

o        It is the marital bond.

 

56)   Who creates the marital bond?

o        God does.

 

57)   What is the reason that the marital bond is not to be broken?

o        It is because God creates it.

 

58)   What is it that keeps the husband and wife together as a family?

o        It is the marital bond.

 

59)   What happens to the family when the marital bond is broken?

o        The family is ripped apart.

 

60)   Does God intend for the family to be ever ripped apart and why?

o        No, because the marital bond that holds the family together is never intended to be broken.

 

61)   What happens to the marital bond in a divorce that holds the family together?

o        The marital bond is broken and the family is ripped apart.

 

62)   What is God’s stance on divorce?

o        God is against divorce.

 

63)   Why does God not forbid divorce in the law of Moses if he is against it?

o        God does not forbid every cultural practice he is against.

 

64)   What is another piece of evidence that contradicts the Pharisees’ assertion that the law of Moses that God gave to the Israelites permits divorce?

o        It is not legitimate for God to permit (encourage) divorce when he is against it.

o        It is legitimate for God to not forbid divorce even when he is against it.

o        So it is legitimate for the law of Moses that God gave to the Israelites to not carry the permission for nor forbid divorce.

 

65)   Did the Pharisees know that God is against divorce by looking at the law of Moses and why?

o        No, because they misread Moses’ intent in the law that God permitted divorce.

 

66)   Did the Pharisees know that God is against divorce by looking at Genesis 2:21-25 and why?

o        Yes, because Jesus quoted from this passage to support his argument that what God has joined together, let no one separate.

 

·  Ask a volunteer to read out loud Genesis 2:21-25 that says,

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21So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.

22Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

24That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

25Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

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67)   Why then did the Pharisees think that Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send his wife away?

o        They wanted to divorce their wives so much that they ignored what Genesis 2:21-25 says.

o        Their hearts were truly hard.

 

68)   What did the disciples do when they were in the house again?

o        They asked Jesus about the matter.

 

69)   Based on Jesus’ answer, what was the question the disciples asked Jesus?

o        They asked Jesus what the consequence is for remarriage after divorce since God is against divorce.

 

70)   What is the consequence for remarriage after divorce according to Jesus?

o        A man who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.

o        A woman who divorces her husband and marries another man commits adultery against him.

 

71)   Could a woman initiate a divorce in Jesus’ time?

o        No.

 

72)   Why then did Jesus suggest that a woman could initiate a divorce?

o        A woman could purposely do something indecent to force her husband to divorce her thus initiating the divorce.

 

73)   According to Jesus' interpretation how does God handle divorce?

o        God chooses to

§  Restrict unbridled divorce.

§  Forbid the deviant behavior of passing around and sharing wives through serial divorce and remarriage.

§  Hold the divorced husband and wife accountable in the end for adultery if they marry another spouse.

 

74)   What is God protecting in the way he handles divorce?

o        God is protecting the marital bond and therefore the integrity of the family.

 

75)   Are the divorced husband and wife held accountable for wrongdoing if they remain unmarried the rest of their lives?

o        No.

 

76)   Should the divorced husband and wife actively seek reconciliation with the objective of remarriage when both have stayed unmarried and why?

o        Yes, because

§  It is God’s will for the man and woman involved to be one flesh till death do them apart.

§  Jesus has come to reconcile the lost world to God the Father thus making reconciliation the way of life for disciples.

 

77)   Since according to Jesus remarriage to a different spouse after divorce is adultery, why does the law of Moses not stipulate the consequence?

o        Deuteronomy 24:4 does say that the woman is defiled upon remarriage to a different spouse after divorce though not specifically calling it adultery.

o        The lack of direct reference to adultery in this case again shows that Moses set out to forbid legally passing around and sharing wives through serial divorce and remarriage, not legislate divorce.

o        In other words Moses set out to tackle the bigger evil.

o        Furthermore what Jesus said about the consequence of remarrying after divorce is an example of progressive revelation that progressively more information has been revealed about what used to be hidden.

 

78)   Were the Pharisees successful in testing Jesus and why?

o   No, because they could not find what Jesus said in response to their question morally compromising.

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·  Ask for a volunteer to summarize.

·  Ask for the rest of the participants to supplement the summary.

 

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Verses 13-16  The Little Children and Jesus

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13People were bringing little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them, but the disciples rebuked them.

14When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.

15Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”

16And he took the children in his arms, placed his hands on them and blessed them.

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Concerning blessing the children,

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79)   What were people bringing little children to Jesus for?

o   They were bringing little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them.

 

80)   What happened when these people came?

o   The disciples rebuked them.

 

81)   Whom did these people need to get past before they could see Jesus?

o   They needed to get past the disciples before they could see Jesus.

 

82)   When the sick, the crippled and the demon-possessed came to Jesus for help, who decided who in the needy crowd would see Jesus next?

o   The disciples did.

 

83)   What function did the disciples serve doing triage for the crowd?

o   They served as the gatekeeper for Jesus to maintain order and prevent the crowd from crowding him.

 

84)   What were the disciples anticipating Jesus to accomplish for Israel?

o   They were anticipating Jesus to deliver the Jews from the rule of the Romans and restore the kingdom to Israel.

 

85)   What did the disciples think that Jesus would need in order to fulfill their national hope and personal aspiration apart from the Indispensable Twelve?

o   Jesus would need a very big crowd.

 

86)   How had the disciples made the triage decision with an eye toward grooming the crowd and making it bigger?

o   They

§  Prioritized dramatic healing and power encounter of driving out demons in order to woo the crowd.

§  Glossed over requests the fulfillment of which did not excite, sensationalize and galvanize the crowd.

 

87)   How did the request for Jesus to place his hands on little children and bless them sound to the disciples?

o   They considered the gentle act of Jesus placing his hands on little children and blessing them to be trivializing Jesus’ ministry and getting in the way.

o   It is good fodder for politicians on an election campaign trail, not for working up a revolutionary crowd.

 

88)   What did the act of rebuking these people who brought little children to Jesus suggest how strongly the disciples had reacted?

o   Rebuking expresses sharp disapproval with strong emotion. 

o   It shows how invested the disciples were in grooming the crowd in accordance with their rules.

 

89)   Had the disciples hindered anyone from coming to Jesus so far other than these little children?

o   No.

 

90)   Prior to the current occasion, had there been any other occasion where people brought children to see Jesus and what was the occasion?

o   Yes, a father brought his boy who was possessed by a deaf and mute spirit to see Jesus in the previous chapter.

 

91)   Was the father who brought his boy to see Jesus in the previous chapter rebuked and turned away by the disciples and why?

o   No, because the father’s request for the deaf and mute spirit to be driven out from his boy fit in with their rules for grooming the crowd.

 

92)   What was the relationship between people and ministry from the disciples’ perspective?

o   The disciples used people to prop up their ministry that was in turn utilized to fulfill their national hope and personal aspiration.

 

93)   What kind of a motive of ministry was behind the disciples’ rules for grooming the crowd?

o   It was the disciples’ self-serving motive of ministry that was behind their rules for grooming the crowd.

 

94)   What did the disciples’ expression of sharp disapproval of these people with strong emotion provoke in Jesus?

o   It provoked in Jesus indignation that was itself an expression of strong emotion.

 

95)   What did Jesus say to the disciples?

o   Jesus said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.  I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”

 

96)   Why did Jesus not say, “Let the parents who bring the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to the children of these parents”?

o   It was because

§  Jesus received these children not for the sake of their parents but for their sake.

§  The kingdom of God belonged to these children for the way they were, not as a result of their parents bringing them.

 

97)   What was Jesus indignant at?

o   Jesus was indignant at the disciples for hindering little children from coming to him.

 

98)   Why was Jesus indignant at the disciples for hindering little children from coming to him?

o   Jesus was indignant because

§  One must come to him to receive the kingdom of God.

§  The disciples were hindering little children to whom the kingdom of God belonged from coming to him.

 

99)   What then were the disciples hindering when they hindered little children from coming to Jesus?

o   They were hindering the advance of the kingdom of God.

 

100)     What mistakes did the disciples just make that went against what Jesus said in the previous chapter?

o   They hindered the advance of the kingdom of God as they previously did in telling the man who drove out demons in Jesus’ name to stop.

o   They failed to welcome a child in Jesus’ name.

 

101)     What was the primary cause that earned the disciples reproach from Jesus?

o   It was the disciples’ self-serving motive of ministry in the way they triaged people who came to Jesus that earned them the reproach.

 

102)     What was it about little children that particularly cast the self-serving calculation of the disciples in a bad light?

o   Little children’s innocence.

 

103)     Was Jesus’ indignation a surprise for the disciples and why?

o   Yes, because they thought that they were advancing the kingdom of God in serving as the gatekeeper for Jesus but Jesus reproached them for hindering the advance of the kingdom of God.

 

104)     With what certainty did Jesus say that anyone who would not receive the kingdom of God like a little child would never enter it?

o   With the certainty of truth.

 

105)     What did Jesus mean when he said that anyone who would not receive the kingdom of God like a little child would never enter it?

o   Jesus meant that

§  Anyone who would not receive the kingdom of God with childlike faith, i.e., trustingly, would never enter it. 

§  In other words one must receive the kingdom of God trustingly to enter it.

 

106)     Were the disciples surprised to hear Jesus say that anyone who would not receive the kingdom of God like a little child would never enter it and why?

o   Yes, because they thought that

§  They had entered the kingdom of God and

§  They had not entered it that way.

 

107)     Did the disciples receive the kingdom of God trustingly like little children and why?

o   No, because they

§  Did not want to face the reality of Jesus’ rising from the dead.

§  Refused to trust him concerning that.

 

108)     To whom did the disciples think that the kingdom of God belonged?

o   Ironically they thought that the kingdom of God belonged to them.

 

109)     What was the message from Jesus to the disciples through the little children?

o   Jesus’ message to the disciples was that they needed to

§  Substitute innocence for calculation in triaging people who came to him.

§  Trust him for what was going to happen to him as the Christ in rising from the dead.

 

110)     What did Jesus do to the children?

o   Jesus took the children in his arms, placed his hands on them and blessed them.

 

111)     What can we learn from the outcome of the little children’s coming to Jesus?

o   When we come to Jesus with innocence substituted for calculation and trust for self-sufficiency, we would like the little children

§  Be blessed.

§  Receive infinitely more than what our calculation could earn us, i.e., the kingdom of God.

 

112)     From the perspective of discipleship why is coming to Jesus important?

o   Discipleship as the eternal continuum of getting to know Jesus begins with coming to Jesus.

o   It does not begin while keeping at a distance from Jesus.

o   As we come to Jesus, we would get to know him mostly through face-to-face dialogs and interactions he had with people in the gospel accounts.

 

113)     How did Jesus’ mundane and uneventful reception of little children speak to the disciples?

o   It is meaningful for Jesus to interact with people without having to provide a teaching, heal a disease, drive out a demon or accomplish something amazing.

o   Jesus was not a vending machine for personal gains or an impersonal powerful force that groomed the crowd in accordance with the disciples’ manipulated input.

o   The act of coming to Jesus is meaningful in itself because of Jesus, not as a result of the outcome of the act.

 

114)     How is the act of coming to Jesus meaningful in itself when we take into account the motive of the party that comes to Jesus?

o   When we come to Jesus with the innocence and trust of a child, the meaning of coming to Jesus rests in itself.

o   When we come to Jesus with the calculation of adults, we foul up the coming to Jesus as we shall see.

 

115)     In the previous chapter what kind of attitude were we told to assume in relating to those we aspire to lead?

o   We should relate to those we aspire to lead selflessly and circumspectly as we would a child.

 

116)     In the current chapter what kind of attitude have we been shown that we should assume in relating to Jesus?

o   We should relate to Jesus with the innocence and trust of a child.

 

117)     How should we relate to those we aspire to lead and to Jesus respectively in the eternal discipleship continuum of getting to know Jesus?

o   In the eternal discipleship continuum of getting to know Jesus we should

§  Relate to those we aspire to lead selflessly and circumspectly as we would a child.

§  Relate to Jesus with the innocence and trust of a child.

 

118)     What was the relationship between people and ministry from Jesus’ perspective?

o   People were the reason of Jesus’ ministry.

 

119)     What kind of a motive of ministry was behind Jesus’ reception of little children?

o   It was Jesus’ selfless motive of ministry that made placing his hands on little children and blessing them worth his time and effort.

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·  Ask for a volunteer to summarize.

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Verses 13-16  The Little Children and Jesus

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